Lessons in Love

2016

D.T

Love was a game and the thrill lies in the chase. 

It was a cat and mouse game, he was the predator and I was the prey.

Overnight phone calls, constant texts, triangulation... 

Love bombing and jealousy, that was all there was to it. 

E

 If you like him, you wouldn't mind him getting close to you. 

But you physically shied away, that's your body telling you, you don't like him.

H.D

再靠近一点点，就让你牵手

再勇敢一点点，我就跟你走

你还等什么，时间已经不多

再下去只好只做朋友。

谢谢有你的岁月, 永远的朋友。

2017

JJ

Ghosting is a thing in modern dating.
Get use to it.

Captain

What translates online may not manifest offline.
And sometimes, you only get that 1 chance.

Y.L

Sparks happen in a moment and sometimes it never comes.

Getting together, takes 2 hands to clap. 

Passivity? No longer works as there's plenty of fish in the sea.
Nevertheless, thank you for the 6 years. 

G.G

Love at first sight? 

You were a breath of fresh air that got lost in the wind.

Too fast, too soon. 

It really takes time, to know someone. 

GBB

The one I need, and yet the one I wasn't ready for. 

With love, timing is everything.

最后，只留下我在原地傻笑。

B

你可知道对我做过什么最残忍？

就是你狠狠把我一夜之间变成了大人

奋不顾身的天真

瞬间化成一路走来的伤痕

我怀念我的笨

The one I wanted.

Yet, love is just a moment of folly. 

Communication, respect and compromise are the keys to unlock forever. 

To be continued...

xoxo
Zy

When you'll rather laugh on a bicycle than cry in a Mercedes

I used to watch 非诚勿扰 a lot.

It's essentially a China Matchmaking show, and there's one famous sentence made by a female participant:

我宁愿坐在宝马里哭，不愿坐在自行车上笑

But today, I went on a date that made me realise, I'll rather laugh on a bike than cry in a Mercedes.
So, long story short, my past came to haunt me.
Last week, I received a call from It's Just Lunch, a local matchmaking agency.
This is the agency that I went for profiling 1.5 yrs back, when val signed me up on a whim lol.
I didn't sign their package after 2 hrs of grilling, however, apparently they kept my profile.
So this 'Relationship Consultant' called me and said there's a match and asked me if i'm willing to go on a date.
I was pretty hesitant since I just ended a RS.
But, well, the opportunity came so i was thinking why not.

The guy is called JB.
And his profile sent by the consultant was like to the skies LOL
He is super rich for one (which was true after today's date)
And he goes French Alps to skii yearly
Went UK to study for 4 years (true too).

I was so anxious to meet him coz I was quite scared there would be no convo topics.
But, guess my worries were unfounded.
He is a PSC scholar, smart and well educated... rich too and drives his own car.
But, one sad thing is... I would say he is not much of a gentleman with EQ lol
During the meal, he snarked in a comment - ohh you can be jealous of me.
And that got me quite taken aback, why would i be jealous of you? lol

At the end of the date, he originally wanted to send me back
That was a nice gesture.
But once i said where i stay, he immediately went - ohh I'm sorry I would love to send you back but I need to work.
Hmm... I'll take it as a rejection haha
It's good too, clearly we 2 are not compatible.

But it made me realise, someone so perfect on paper, may not be a good match in real life.
I'm actually quite happy, almost 2 years of mindless dating... I'm definitely much clearer of what I'm looking for in a guy.

Right now, I just wanna take a break as a single (and happy) lady.
And he will come, it's just a matter of time.

Off to ride my bike :p hahaha!

Full Circle

I met GBB for dinner last night.
And he told me he was happily attached, to the girl he met on the dating app after me.
Not that I was surprised and I am very happy for him.

On hindsight, I realised I did the right thing.
I knowingly chose B, because I knew I needed to experience it or else I will regret.
But at the end of the day, I was most comfortable with who I needed, instead of who I wanted.

For the first time since the break up, my heart is full.

Thank you, for being a part of my 2017, and starting my 2018 right.